Alright, so here’s the deal:
Rimming (oral–anal play) is all about comfort, hygiene and rhythm. The “best way” isn’t just one technique, it’s how tuned-in you are to what he likes.

Key Things For Play:
Prep matters—Both people feel better, more relaxed and confident when the hole is clean inside and out. Shower and a proper douche goes a long way. Cleanliness is next to godliness—rather, it’s next to your tongue and mouth.

Start slow—Tease around the cheeks, give them kisses and soft bites. Rub them with your hands and definitely spread them open. Lick the outer rim first, use your lips and even light kisses—it builds anticipation.

Tongue technique:
Use a flat tongue, broad licks for warm-up. A pointed tongue for firmer penetration, almost like a darting motion—spread open those cheeks as wide as you can get ’em. Circular motions—moving around the rim feels amazing. Sometimes just pressing your tongue and holding it against the sphincter is hotter than constant flicking. Constantly mix these techniques up. Don’t stay locked on one move. Variety keeps his asshole engaged.

Switch between soft licks, deeper probing and gentle sucking at the rim. Always pay attention to his body. He will tell you what works. If he pushes back, moans, or relaxes, keep doing that—extra bonus—combine your hands by stroking his cock, massaging his thighs and even reaching forward if he likes for a full-body experience.

The key is patience and responsiveness—WANT TO DO IT. It’s less about a “perfect trick” and more about how well you read him in the moment.