1. Check in with yourself
Ask yourself why you’re curious. Is it physical? Emotional? Horny boredom? Cool either way — just be honest with yourself. Curiosity doesn’t mean you’re gay. It just means you’re curious.

Pick someone chill, patient, and ideally more experienced — someone who

2. Talk first
Say what you’re into (or not into). Respects boundaries. Avoid anyone pushy—this isn’t a porn scene; comfort come first. If you want to keep it to mutual touch and maybe oral, but no anal (unless you want to try) or kissing, all that is fine, set your limits clearly. You’re allowed to stop and go home at any time.

3. Mutual masturbation is a good start
This is the easiest, least-intense start. Sit next to each other, stroke yourselves, maybe stroke each other. This breaks tension, builds comfort, and gives you time to figure out what feels good. A hand job is low-pressure, it’s still intimate and you’ll definitely like it. It’s a good way to explore. Use lots of lube and communicate what feels good.

4. Blowjobs (giving and receiving)
This can feel more personal. Start slow, use your hand along with your mouth, and don’t force anything deep. If it doesn’t feel right, stop. If it does—enjoy!

5. If you don’t want to kiss, don’t.
For some guys kissing is more intimate than a blow job or hand job. Totally normal. If it’s not your vibe no worries, don’t do it. Personally, I think it builds better connection.

6. Protection?
Condoms for oral is overboard in my opinion. Do your research. The odds of catching anything is slim. But, STIs like gonorrhea, herpes, and syphilis can spread through saliva.

7. After is real
You might feel fine, you might feel weird, whatever it is just know it’s normal. Talk to your buddy if you need to, or just take some quiet time for yourself. Don’t overthink. You explored. That’s brave.

8. No labels!
Having sex with a man doesn’t make you gay, bi, or anything else—unless you want it to. Identity is your personal thing. Who you say you are is who you are.